Here’s a saying that you’ve probably seen or heard before at some point in your life: “If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.”

I love this quote so much because of its simplicity—whether we can or can’t control something, our response and our actions are still OURS to take.

We are responsible.

At any moment in time, you are responsible for the words that come out of your mouth. Whether they are positive or negative, encouraging or discouraging, helpful or hurtful.

At any moment in time, you are responsible for the actions you take. You are responsible for how you spend your time, the people you spend your time with, and how you treat yourself and others. You may not be responsible for the problems you encounter, but you are fully responsible for your reactions.

You are responsible for your priorities.

You are responsible for the thoughts that live in your head.

You are responsible for your own life.

There’s a saying in theatre that I learned when I was very young: “acting is reacting”. Meaning, that in its truest, most basic form, “acting” is reacting to the world and the people around you. And you are responsible for your “acting”.

The idea that you are responsible for your own actions, your own feelings, the direction of your own life is not dependent on whether or not you believe in a higher power, the idea of fate, or any other guiding force in this world. They both exist simultaneously.

It’s SO easy to make excuses. How many times have you either heard or vocalized one of these lines – or something similar?

“I wanted to go to the gym today, but I ran out of time.”

“I wanted to take that vacation this year, but work got too busy.”

“I wanted to save a certain amount of money this year, but I had too many bills to pay off.”

“I wanted to get married, but I guess I’m just not good/pretty/worthy enough.”

There’s a great moment from the movie, “The Holiday,” that explains the idea of taking responsibility for your own life in a way that has always stuck with me.

Kate Winslet’s character, Iris, is down in the dumps, as it seems everything has just gone wrong for her, and she can’t seem to dig herself out of this hole. Arthur, her delightful, older neighbor tells her:

“In the movies, we have leading ladies and we have the best friend. I can tell that you’re a leading lady but you’re acting like the best friend…”

To which she responds: “You’re right; you’re supposed to be the leading lady in your own life, for God’s sake.”

Choose to be Kate Winslet today (and every day). Take responsibility and become the leading lady of your own life!

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