In today’s day and age, it’s so easy to fill our days. Thanks to modern technology, everyone is so accessible. It’s so hard to say no, when there’s so much LIFE out there to say yes to!

Sure, it’s good to be busy.

But being busy isn’t always good for us.

And this is something that we, as women, particularly struggle with.

We’re driven to do as much as we possibly can in a given period of time. We’re natural-born multi-taskers. We are INCREDIBLY efficient!

We are high-performers.

And being a high-performer is a wonderful thing. But it can also be incredibly self-sabotaging. Because if you are a high-performer, chances are at least one of the several following statements apply to you:

• You experience extreme joy out of “getting sh*t” done and crossing tasks off your to-do list.

• You often receive praise or feedback in the realm of “I don’t know how you manage it all” (and you love it!)

• You are a doer. Perhaps your biggest pet peeve is people who are all talk and no action.

• You have big goals for yourself.

• You hold yourself to very high standards, and become upset when things don’t pan out the way you planned.

If any of the above sounds like you, then I say to you, “HELLO fellow high-performer!”

And while many of those above defining characteristics sounds like positive qualities (and they can be), they carry with them a heavy burden:

High performers often put the needs of others well-before their own.

Which manifests all too often in self-neglect at a deeper level. Maybe you’re managing to keep the house clean, staying above water at work, and still getting in your regular four workouts per week, but are you fulfilled? Are you doing the things that will make you happy? Do you even know what those things are? (Hopefully you do now, after our exercise on Day 8!)

I can remember so vividly when I first had this realization. I was, on paper, “crushing it,” as the kids say these days. I was getting SO much done every day—between planning my wedding, holding down a full-time job, running 2 “side hustles” (including trying to grow Poised & Professional), pursuing professional performance gigs, and you know, being a HUMAN, I had a lot on my plate. I made lists. I crossed them off.

…And I yet was so unhappy.

I was stressed all the time, and even though I was being productive and balancing the crazy workload that had become my life, at a deeper level, something was missing. And it took me longer than you would think (and than I’d like to admit) to realize why: I wasn’t spending time on the things that MATTERED. If you look at this list above, I didn’t include: spending time with my family, making time for my relationship, keeping in touch with my friends, nurturing my relationship to God, appreciating all that I had… the really important things.

The first step to mindfulness is shifting focus what you “need” to do, to what you “want” to do.

There’s a great quote from Eckhart Tolle that says, “The power for creating a better future is contained in the present moment: You create a good future by creating a good present.”

Translated to a really high-performer language: Our tasks make up our days, our days make our lives.

…So, don’t you want to make sure you’re spending your life in a way that honors the things you really care about?

Of course you do.

But, like many things, it’s easier said than done. And the best way to start is by being completely honest with yourself.

Do you like the way you’re spending your days? Are you making time for the things that are really important to you?

If not—change it.

Remember, you are responsible for your own life. You don’t have to go through the motions of a schedule that someone else created for you. You don’t!

Be mindful of your time. It’s the most precious resource you have.

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